Skip to content

February 25, 2011

22

Reprise: Mr. & Mrs.

by le0pard13

Last week Awhile back, I teed up Doug Liman‘s Mr. & Mrs. Smith for another viewing (this time, on Blu-ray Disc).  It’s not a perfect movie, but then again, neither are we. Timing is everything, I guess. I don’t love this film because of the pyrotechnics and the over-the-top super-assassin skills on display from the pair of super-attractive leads, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. [okay, every now and then I do get a kick out of the variety of combat hardware on hand and that its being put to gorgeous use by a comely, long-haired brunette...] That’s not really the reason. I love it because of this:

John Smith: “Careful, Jane. I can push the button any time I like.”
Jane Smith: “Baby, you couldn’t find the button with both hands and a map.”

It is the facets of wedlock, and all the little things about marriage, that this story absolutely nails on the big screen. The milieu of marriage, as it’s been described by others. I bet you, whether the person is married or divorced… happy or miserable, a hitched person will spot that same detail with regard to this movie. I doubt the single person in the room will fully comprehend what they are seeing. Oh, they’ll get some of it. But, not the portion that is felt by those who have really lived in a state of matrimony. Those of us who are, or have been, married know living that part leaves an actual impression (as in, “That’s going to leave a mark.“). For the non-married (living together doesn’t count — think of it as false labor vs. real c-o-n-t-r-a-c-t-i-o-n-s), it is just not at their level of understanding. If they pull the pin and come back to this film in, say, five or six years… I think they’ll finally get what they’re seeing.

Jane Smith: “Wait, why do I get the girl gun?”
John Smith: “Are you kidding me?”

At first, when I heard they were filming this movie, I rolled my eyes and thought, “They’re remaking Prizzi’s Honor.” Yes, it’s about two killers who fall for each other, unbeknownst to them. But, it is nothing like that black comedy of the 80′s. When the truth comes out, as it must, even though they are lovers and together, Charley and Irene actually do try to rub the other out (and one succeeds). This is the other angle that makes me love this 2005 film more. Here, it’s clear that John and Jane are not the lovers from that earlier film (or that other time). They are married. Whether or not they have clandestine covers to hide behind, they still have a history. A marital one [ever notice that marital and martial are an anagram of the other?]. Review the scene after their climatic fight with each other, when they compare the scars they’ve acquired over the years in their trade. It’s an analogy of what they’ve come through… together. And it’s that, and the love they have for each other, that makes it impossible for either one to kill the other. They will fight for, and with, the other to keep it/them going. And that is what I admire. Marriage doesn’t work out for everyone. But, when it does…

John Smith: [at the marriage counselor's] “OK, I’ll go first. Um… Let me say, uh, we don’t really need to be here. See, we’ve been married for five years.”
Jane Smith: “Six.”
John Smith: [chastened] “Five… six years.”

Watch the two bookend sequences with the couple in sessions with the marriage counselor, again. Examine the other’s by-play and reactions during them. As tough and skilled as each of these assassins are, they are vulnerable to the other by way of their union. It’s subtly on display. They are connected by a real marriage. Peeves and looks, aside. And as surely as one could see Bogart actually falling in love with Lauren Bacall in To Have and Have Not, you can see the same here with Pitt and Jolie. Man, do they spark when together. I don’t follow or care about the tabloids regarding these two. I guess I identify with the two people on film falling in love (and their characters fighting to stay there). But, more than that, the individuals up there act like a couple. And a wife and husband that love and care for each other, no matter their differences, disagreements, or piques, can still be one formidable pair – as these two are in celluloid.

John Smith: “That left of yours is a thing of beauty.”
Jane Smith: “Mmm. You take it well.”

I definitely am not Brad Pitt, but I’ll put my salt & pepper haired beauty up against Angie anytime without a qualm (thank you very much). I’ll give the young folk their due for their current vampire craze in books, TV, and movies as a symbol of romantic love for their generation. Fair enough. They are more than welcome to it (I’m sure my approval or opinion is nothing they seek, anyway – that’s the way it is). However, I’ll take this strangely romantic action film over their stuff any day of the week. With its high-caliber exploits, explosions, battle scars, and all its emotions on its sleeve, Mr. & Mrs. Smith is, for me, a sweet and bruising metaphor for marriage, partnership, and enduring love. Did I mention that timing thing? This week is my 21st 22nd wedding anniversary. And yes, I’m guilty of putting things in the context of the popular arts (movies and books, especially). Plus, I am overly analytical and remote, at times. But at the core of my Mexican soul, there beats the heart of a romantic (that hot-blooded latin-thing my spouse reminds me of, from time-to-time). This little review is an homage to the rigors of marriage, in general — and the magnificence of my partner-in-life, specifically. And if it isn’t obvious by now to you, I deeply love the woman I married. More now than when we first wed in the late 80′s. Happy Anniversary, dear.

John Smith: “You looked like Christmas morning.”

Note: since today is our wedding anniversary, I decided to reprint (and update) this review from the old blog here. If I don’t do it, who will? ;-)

22 Comments Post a comment
  1. Herb
    Feb 25 2011

    have a quote on me and congrats.

    “My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.” -
    — Winston Churchill

    amen to that!

    Reply
    • Feb 25 2011

      Great quote, my friend. Thanks so much.

      Reply
    • May 13 2011

      Love that quote Herb, thank you for that. What a great post Le0pard! Thank you for helping me to see past all the Hollywood, to peel back the innane and to an glimmer of truth of this surprising tribute to the mysterious beauty of the sanctity of marriage. I mention sanctity because my wife would have to be a saint to put up with me, and if she isn’t now, she will be :-)

      Reply
      • May 13 2011

        Isn’t that a great quote, Ronan? Your addition (“I mention sanctity because my wife would have to be a saint to put up with me, and if she isn’t now, she will be”) is right up there, too. Let me send a welcome and thank you your way for this comment, my friend.

        Reply
  2. Feb 25 2011

    Oh, jeez – I love this.
    My happiest Happy Anniversary wishes to you both – with wishes for many, many more.

    I often say there’s just nothing any lovelier – or more fun – than a good marriage. And it’s something I wish for everyone I care about. You, my friend, have it nailed. You’ve nourished it and treasured it and you both are now reaping what you’ve sown. Enjoy.

    Reply
    • Feb 25 2011

      Very kind of you to say. My wife and I are touched by your words, my friend. Thank you very much, Kaye.

      Reply
    • May 13 2011

      Nicely summed up there Kaye. I have had the most fun in my life since I met my wife. She is the love of my life and the life of my love!

      Reply
      • May 13 2011

        The best to you and yours, Ronan.

        Reply
      • May 14 2011

        Thank you for the good wishes Le0pard, the same to you and your wife. :-)

        Reply
  3. I love your unabashedly romantic gestures (and this movie). Having met your beautiful wife, albeit briefly, I know where you’re coming from.

    Happy anniversary to you and A.

    Reply
    • Feb 25 2011

      I’ll be sure to pass this one on to you-know-who, Elyse. Thanks very much.

      Reply
  4. Feb 25 2011

    Happy anniverary, cousin, to both of you.

    I liked the post when you posted it and I know that I won’t get the whole allegory of the film ’til I am married (no candidates yet…).

    Anyway, I’d like to add a quote from the film that summarizes my parents’ marriage:

    Jane: If you don’t like them [the curtains] we can take them back.
    John: All right, I don’t like them.

    Jane: You’ll get used to them.

    OK… congrats again!

    Reply
    • Feb 25 2011

      I love that quote from the film! Thanks again, cousin :-) .

      Reply
  5. Feb 25 2011

    Congratulations! And I thank you for celebrating your happy marriage; too few examples of this are released into the wild. I’m not sure why we seem more keen on focusing on failures in media and literature when success is just as important and, arguably, more useful for communities. A strong partnership is a lovely thing.

    Reply
    • Feb 25 2011

      Thank you very much, Rachel. It means a lot.

      Reply
  6. The Sci-Fi Fanatic
    Feb 26 2011

    Still figuring out how to maneuver here. Minor adjustments but I’m slow.

    Happy Anniversary my friend. 22. Man, no easy feat today. I’m inspired. All the best.

    Reply
  7. Feb 26 2011

    Congratulations & happy anniversary. I think I like you best when you wear your heart on your sleeve.

    Reply
    • Feb 26 2011

      I have a tendency to do just that. Thank you very much, Naomi.

      Reply
  8. May 10 2011

    Awesome post, Michael, thanks for sharing and happy belated Anniversary! Y’know it’s funny, I always thought of Mr & Mrs Smith as a fun action romp, but now that I think about it there are some profound stuff in there about marriage, so kudos for pointing ‘em out.

    I think men who can express their emotions and not ashamed of them are VERY sexy :D I totally agree w/ Rachel that the media always choose to highlight the negative/failures of marital union, though I’m sure there are as many marriages that do work. Anyway, my hubby and I both came from a broken home, but we CHOOSE to make our marriage work.

    Reply
    • May 10 2011

      Thank you very much, rtm. And happy anniversary to you and your spouse of 8 years. Given the wonderful piece you posted today in celebration, I’m sure it is a very special union. Take care.

      Reply

Trackbacks & Pingbacks

  1. What a Way to End the Year: 7×7 Link Award | It Rains… You Get Wet

Leave a comment

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Note: HTML is allowed. Your email address will never be published.

Subscribe to comments

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 810 other followers